Our biggest anxieties live in the shadows of our fears. When our daily lives push us into the shadows- well, things start to break down.
They key is understanding each of our shadows, and managing whatever lies within. Its the opposite of ignoring them.
But you elevate yourself to another plane when you are able to help someone alleviate their shadows, especially when their fears are triggered by something that happens to be a strength of yours. Assist them and a problem is solved.
We don't do enough of that in our partnerships. Long term relationships are not built on zero-sum victories, but on win-win. It sounds simple, but becomes hard when the negotiations start.